Why “Quiet Sessions” Exist
Quiet or SEN-friendly sessions are often created with good intentions. They’re meant to give children with sensory sensitivities a calmer space to enjoy activities without loud noises, crowds, or unpredictability. For my child, who has autism, this can make the difference between a fun experience and a stressful one. In theory, it’s about inclusion – giving every child the chance to participate in everyday activities in a way that works for them.
The Problem with “Off-Hour” Sessions
The challenge comes when these sessions are scheduled at times that just don’t work for families. I’ve seen this play out in swimming sessions. Some, like those supported through Phab, are on weekends from 1–2 PM – perfect for us. But our local swimming centre runs their SEN session from 6–8 PM. By then, my child is tired, and it throws off routines at home. Stress levels go up, bedtime gets pushed back, and what should be a fun activity can end in frustration.
Soft play is usually easier. Most centres we visit hold sessions during reasonable times, though one does theirs 4–6 PM on a weekday. That works as an after-school treat to burn off energy, but it doesn’t help families who want weekend options. These experiences show just how much timing matters – it’s not just a “nice to have,” it affects the child’s whole day.
I’m not looking for handouts. I’m happy to pay full price, even more, if it means my child can enjoy the session properly. What frustrates me is when these offerings feel like a tick-box exercise, scheduled at times convenient for the business rather than the child.
How Companies Could Do Better
Small changes could make a huge difference:
- Offering SEN-friendly sessions at times that actually work for families, not just before opening or late at night.
- Adjusting lighting, sound, and layout so it’s genuinely calming.
- Ensuring staff understand sensory needs and are approachable.
- Being clear about what a session involves so parents can plan.
- Providing flexible options for families who can’t attend “quiet times.”
It doesn’t have to be complicated – it’s about thinking about the child first, not just the business schedule.
The Emotional Impact
When SEN sessions feel tokenistic, it’s exhausting. You feel like you’re constantly explaining, negotiating, or justifying your child’s needs. And kids can sense it too – they feel like they’re “different” or not fully part of the activity. Simple changes from companies can take that pressure off and make a real difference. I just want my child to enjoy themselves like any other child, without extra stress for us at home.
Your Voice Matters
I’d love to hear from other parents and carers. How do SEN sessions work in your area? Are they genuinely helpful, or do they feel like an afterthought? Take a minute to complete our poll – sharing your experiences helps highlight what really matters for families and children with SEN.
